rudiva dating - Dating courtship absolutely

Those who enter into courtship are pretty sure they have found the one.

They are not going into courtship with any thought that it is not the one. It is quite a big step to become formally exclusive with someone.

I think a single Christian person using “courtship” to describe their dating life wants to psychologically believe they are doing something a little better, a bit more nobler than merely “dating”.

Courtship, on the other hand, absolutely does have marriage in mind.

To say that you are courting someone or are in a courtship is basically to say “I am moving toward potential marriage with this person, and we shall see how it goes.” It also absolutely implies exclusivity with the person.

They are two very different words, with different meanings, and indicate two different places in the process towards marriage.

In fact, with regards to “dating” I should not be too quick to say that this term necessarily included in the process towards marriage.

I don't want to date more than one guy at a time, but I might not want to marry that one guy, either. These terms are often used interchangeably, depending on which one the person feels most comfortable using. You never hear a non-Christian use this term at any time.

So courtship, just as a term, has meaning and value to a Christian.

Because it means exclusivity, courtship needs to be a short period of time, and have a definitive end. Otherwise, you risk hurting each other in a way you do not wish to, but can simply because you are not yet married.

It risks looking like and acting like you are married, when you have not formally made the commitment.

It risks giving in to the temptation to do that one thing reserved ONLY to married couples because you become so used to each other and, what the heck, you love each other and are practically married anyway, so why not?

At the practical level, you want to be in courtship for a short time, with the agreement to get engaged or end the relationship at the end of that time period.

This ensures that hearts are not too invested beyond repair, and that both persons are able to become available to new persons.

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