My ex-boyfriend’s wife (my former metamour) tried polyamory out, but it wasn’t her thing.She had all the freedom to explore but felt most fulfilled by being monogamous with her husband, even if he wasn’t monogamous with her.
Though my partner wasn’t thrilled about non-monogamy from the get-go, he wanted me to live a full life.
Every functional mono/poly couple I’ve met understands that the poly partner’s needs can’t begin and end with one lover.
It’s a fact of biochemistry for which we all must brace ourselves.
If a monogamous person cannot foresee themselves ever coming to terms with the wild ride of polyamory, they should reconsider.
Metamours will eventually come into the picture and the poly partner will experience NRE, or “new relationship energy,” that intoxicating feeling of infatuation we’re all familiar when a fresh relationship is in its honeymoon phase.
When your partner becomes infatuated with someone else, you won’t be the center of their attention.
Not only does everyone love differently, but we all find fulfillment in different ways.
The success of mono/poly relationships depends on both partners accepting and respecting each other as individuals with different emotional needs.
But at this point, after so many years of being poly, monogamy is almost as alien to me as polyamory is to strictly monogamous people.Tags: Adult Dating, affair dating, sex dating